If you want to be a good mom, you need to understand a couple of things. First of all, we all want to be good parents and we know that it isn’t an easy thing. First of all, you always ask yourself about punishments and things like that. We have to agree that methods like punishment and rewards or the system which applies these methods are debatable. First of all, children need to understand the importance and the value of many things like money and food. They also need to socialize and learn everything that is needed in real life. So we must be careful when we apply the method to punishments and rewards. We must make sure that we tell our child the morale when applying these methods. You shouldn’t focus on rewards, and you shouldn’t learn and study for rewards. Life is not about rewards.
We need to teach our children that a reward is sometimes justified. For example, your child is studying hard for the exam or school in genera. And you see that there are countless nights without sleep. You as a parent can’t watch this because you know that it is not a good thing. But your child has to learn something about education and discipline. Discipline is important when growing up. If you child understands the importance of discipline, it won’t have a lot of problems with work and working orders or schedules. A disciplined person has better chances at keeping their jobs than those who are not disciplined. When you know that you must finish your school works or projects on time and that it is imperative and beyond everything, you know that you will succeed in life. It is not that hard, and we know that it is for the best.
Discipline is key
We don’t expect parents to be some totalitarian dictator to see results. That is not a good parenting method. You want to teach your kids that they need to have a normal routine when they have to do their work. First of all, they need to finish their exams and school things in time. There mustn’t be any delays or things like that. Once they have finished learning and their homework, they can relax and do something to chill out. But they must understand that free time can’t influence working time or learning time. Once they realize that their free time is influencing their work or teaching time, they have to do something. It is not an easy thing, but you must understand your child that school or college is not an easy thing. You must be supportive and always help as much as you can. You child will be thankful one day.
To help you child during these hard times when going to school and college, you should always know that nagging won’t help and the phrases like: “I told you so” are also out of the picture.