Everyone has gone through this conversation with their parents, even you. It is just a topic that parents feel the need of talking about with their kids. That is because they are trying to protect them by educating them about sex. Usually, these conversations go one way, the parents sit down with their children and talk about things they should know about sex and most of the time they are telling them all the things they shouldn’t do. That can be a problem, kids will get confused and when the time comes they won’t know what to do because their parents told them only things they shouldn’t do. To mothers that don’t know what to talk about on this topic, here are some smart ideas about what you should and shouldn’t do.
Make yourself available. You have to be available for your kids to talk about something like this and we are not talking about just having time for them, but having a close relationship with them. That is important because otherwise, they will not share anything with you, they have to have complete trust in you. Make them feel relaxed completely before you even bring up this topic that way you will get the best results. If you don’t have this kind of relationship with them, start building it first and when you got to a point when they trust you enough you can talk about sex.
Plan Ahead. You cannot go into this conversation if you don’t have prepared anything. It will just end quickly and awkward for both of you. Planning is always important no matter what you want to do, especially when you want to talk about sex with your kid. Don’t just plan the things you will say to him about sex, plan where and when will you bring up this conversation. Some of the best places and times to start this conversation is in a car for example when you are taking him home from school. That way you will avoid several things such as eye contact that is usually the thing that ends these kinds of conversations quickly, and your kid won’t be distracted at school thinking about the things you just said to him about sex.
Don’t wait until they are teenagers to talk about it. Some mothers think that they should wait until their kid is for example at least 15 years old to talk about sex. That is totally wrong, you don’t have to wait such a long time for this conversation to happen. You can have a conversation about sex when they are 10. Then they will understand it, you don’t have to have a very detailed conversation about sex at that age, but it is nice to know that your kid is educated somewhat about safe sex. Kids these days have sex even before they reach 15. You are risking their health by not educating them about safe sex. They might not know anything about sex and that is should be taken very seriously.