Mothers that don’t have work tend to spend a lot of their time with the kids. Some go even further, and they keep their children in the house where they can observe them constantly. This is normal for kids that have less than five years, but for older children, it’s best to let them play with other kids.
Pressure from perfect parenthood leads to stress
The study showed two things that shocked a lot of people. First, it proved that parents that focus everything on children (making changes to their schedule to increase the amount of time they interact with their kids) builds up stress faster than other activities.
And indeed, working parents get more stressed that people who don’t have children even if they work at the same place and get exposed to the same amount of stressful situations. An obvious difference between stress levels can be observed between parents that focus their life on children and parents that send them in kindergartens.
Couples that are overly attached to their children place them at the center of their life (there isn’t anything wrong with it, but) and they build their life, including work and social activities, around their kids. This causes stress because they think that their children deserve more of their time which they should use to relax from work.
How this issue affects kids?
The study in question also showed that the time spent with children (under the age of 11) doesn’t affect their psychological or academic success in any way. So, one could claim that parents do this for self-satisfaction only. But that claim would be false because parents want the best for their kids and they are spending too much time with them for that reason.
The stress that parents get from scheduling their life so they can devote more time to their children can have adverse consequences on children as well. Parents that are under a lot of stress can unwillingly take it out on their kids. This is rare, but it happens in some cases. Another thing that can happen is the transfer of the stress on the children. They get the impression that their parents expect a lot from them and that causes negative thinking and kids can’t cope with stress as well as adults can.
Moms and children – Moderation is the key
All parents, especially moms as they tend to stick to children more than fathers, should take it easy with kids. They should spend some quality time with the kids, but they should also allow them to play with their peers.
Moms will get to rest and reduce the stress by spending some time on things they like while kids will get to play with their peers and lead a carefree life. Moderation is a key in a lot of stuff and parenting is one of them.
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