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How to communicate with your child

There are a few tips on how to communicate with your child in the best way possible, and here are the four of them:

1. Always speak to the child at his level.

Kneel or sit next to him so the child can look into your eyes while you are talking. In this way, you make him aware that you are interested in what he has to tell you. That you are not the big scary figure above, but that you two are on some level the same, and close. Listen to the opinion of the little ones. To start, ask him for an opinion what he would like to eat, what to play, and later talk about feelings. Probably at first, it will not understand the words, but it will feel very good. In this way, you learn from your child to express your feelings and not be ashamed of.

2. Be natural and patient

You do not have to talk to your two-year-old like a baby. If you overestimate the gesture or change the height of your voice, your child will certainly imitate you and think that such a speech is normal. Be patient, because small children may not be able to quickly ell adults what they think, want, and feel. It often happens that the child starts to bother you when he/she wants to say something quickly, so always calmly and patiently tell them to slowly talk because you have enough time to listen to them

3. Find the time and make sure you understand

Always find time to listen to a child when he wants to tell you something, even if you are on the job that can, of course, wait. When you are interested in listening to the little one, you encourage them to express their thoughts and ideas. Also, you can learn a lot about how the child sees the world and what features prevail in it, which can help you in his upbringing. Sometimes it will be difficult for you to understand what a child is trying to say to you, especially when a child is just learning to communicate. It is very important to let the child know that you are concerned to find out what he is saying to you, but you do not understand him.

4. Learn to listen to your child

Words and actions are very important, so do not be laughing while looking at the interests of your child, but try to understand. Although it may seem inconceivable and insignificant to tell you a little bit, learn to listen to it, because it is likely that a lot of information is likely to be covered by one very important one. Observe how your child communicates with other children. Never interrupt their conversation (except if there is a conflict), and if you notice that the child does not know how to pronounce a word or stutter while talking, try to practice later at home.

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Importance of Learning About the Process of Childbirth

If you are expecting a baby and you never had any previous experience with childbirth, then you should learn about it because it will be extremely beneficial for both you and your baby. We have made this article specially for women who are pregnant with their first child because we understand the pressure and the importance of childbirth. If you know the process of childbirth, then you can go through it much easier and faster because you already know how to do certain things. More importantly, it will be less scary for you and you will not stress that much about it. Mostly mothers stress about the delivering process because they are afraid of unknown.

They never experienced anything like this before and all they know is that it will be painful. We don’t want to lie to you, it will be painful, but that is just the smallest part of the delivering process, there is so much more to it that you don’t know yet. Once you learn everything, you will forget to think or be scared of the pain during the process. Furthermore, the pain is only temporary, it will go away faster than you can realize. Here are some things that you need to learn about the childbirth process.

A Day You Will Never Forget

The birth of your child is one of those days that you just cannot forget, no matter how old you get, you will always remember it because it will be such a nice memory. Most mothers think that there is not a single nice thing about the childbirth process and that it consists of only pain. Well, we have news for you, this short period of your life will be the most important and beautiful time in your life because you will be giving life to a small person. The feeling that you get during the delivery process cannot be compared with anything in this world. A lot of first-time mothers have said that the process was nothing like they expected it to be and the reason for that is because they are not educated about the process. That’s why you need to start learning more about this process before you actually experience it.

Use of Medication

If you are one of those mothers who is just terrified by the delivering process, then you can relax because there are various medications that you can get that will help you ease the pain away. Of course, most mothers decide not to go with the medication because they are quite strong and they can have some effects on the baby because they are still connected and everything that you get into your system will be affecting the baby too. There can be some complications due to these medications, but there are very low chances for that to happen, so you can still be relaxed. Furthermore, the pain part of the childbirth is just a small part of this process that gets over quite fast, once you push out your baby, there will be no pain.

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Important Strategies for Raising Children in a technological world

Technology has become an essential part of our normal day human lives. In fact, it has become so present that most of the things that required our presence in the past can now be either automated or can be performed from home by using a computer or an app. The world has changed compared to just a few decades ago, and in such a fast-paced world laws and rules change fast as well, or at least they should. When it comes to raising children, it has never been an easy task. For instance, in the past, there were a lot of problems with healthcare, with the potential of war and many ways where children could get hurt, injured or where they could come in contact with potentially bad things, and that has not changed even today. For that reason, it is again a challenge to raise a child in this technological world so that it can know how to protect itself and have a carefree life at the same time. We will share with you some of our knowledge on how to best raise your child in this technological world.

1) Technology should not be forbidden and discouraged

In today’s world, there is no good reason to try and prevent technology from being a part of your child’s life. We do agree that they should not have access to all features of certain apps and programs, but that is why there are many apps with parental control or limits on them. Since most of the programs and apps can be moderated to a certain degree you should encourage your child to use and master the technology that is in his interest. Protecting him can just create an adverse effect on the child, plus it can alienate him from his peers and seriously lower his chances of integrating with society at one point in their lives.

2) Moderate use should be your golden standard

Using too little technology can have adverse effects, but using too much can have the same result. Moderation is the key in everything in life, and you will simply have to have basic knowledge of how much your child should be using certain things and keep it on a nice comfy moderate level.

3) Keep their social lives high

Technology is definitely making our lives easier, but it also has its costs. While technology is shortening our need to converse with other people, it does not mean that we should encourage such behavior. In fact, children can suffer a lot if they miss on their social development. So, you as a parent need to make sure that your child has enough social interaction in the real world so that they don’t suffer from social anxiety and other issues when it comes to being friends or speaking in public.

4) Teach them to question everything

The internet is one big fat book that can show them all the colors of the world. While it is important they have their own opinion, make sure that they don’t believe everything they read online. Teach them critical thinking and that questioning everything they read or see online is the best way to approach the world and the technology in it.

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Tips for Moms raising young children

There is no universal guideline for raising children, regardless of the age of a child. Every child truly is unique, requires deep understanding and individualized approach. Nevertheless, there are some common patterns of behavior every physically, mentally and emotionally healthy child should follow in a period of a certain age. So, if you’re a mother of a relatively young child or children, here’s a preview of some patterns you should follow in raising and some guidelines you can use to improve your relationship with your young child.

All children love to…

Learn and would be the universal, simple answer. Not all the children express these needs and interests in the same manner, but they are always there. Avoid a common mistake of imposing learning as a disciplined routine and duty; you will narrow child’s view and generate antipathy towards studying. Take advantage of the common situations to explain, teach, inform and trigger kid’s interest in a certain topic. Another common mistake to avoid is to neglect the importance of playing. Playing is not a waste of time, not even when the child grows up a bit. Stimulate you kid to play, to be creative and to explore, but make sure he stays safe and follows the priorities in the schedule.

Lack of limitations spoils

Methods of disciplining your child are a topic in psychological discussions about modern parenthood. One thing’s for sure – lack of directions, limits, and rules is not unconditional love, but the surest way to spoil your kid and deprive him of a basic feeling of responsibility. At the same time, using physical punishment to impose discipline to your child suggests you have failed as an authority and a friend at some point. The best is somewhere in the middle. Talk straight, open and be clear about conditions and rules. Explain the issue and the consequences. Make it logical and simple, and the child will follow. Don’t yell, don’t threat, but keep the authority in your voice and be consistent.

Routine, rituals and responsibility

It’s not just healthy and productive, but also good for boosting your child’s independence. Set regular waking up time and bed time, the routine schedule for meals, playing, house duties and involve your child into responsible tasks with full trust into their skills and capability. Kids thrive on success after being assigned to conduct some responsible duty.

Show your interest for their inner world

In an honest attempt to provide all the material aspects of cozy life to their children, many parents neglect emotional support and interest into feelings, thoughts, impressions and experiences of their child. It particularly goes for mothers. Try to avoid this common mistake. Talk to your child, get to know what occupies his mind, what worries him, amuses him, what’s the current emotional state and what struggles he’s coping with.

Watch the language

It’s not an issue to say that children often push our limits, especially in the relationship with mothers that impose a lot more not so pleasant duties to them. If you are already stressed and losing your nerves, try to watch the self-control and the way you express your thoughts and feelings. These moments of affective reaction pass in our lives, but often leave scars in kid’s memory. Find a way to be strict, but not offensive.

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How to raise an unspoiled child?

Parents are facing problems with children when it comes to their socialization and teaching them how to behave. But there are few tips and tricks to overcome those difficulties.

Manners are important

Only three words can make the difference. I love you is one of those words but what we mean are those other three words. “Thank you” and “please.” Even children who are 18 months old can learn the basic things of politeness. It is the perfect time to start because the child starts to make judgments about the value and this is the time to teach him/her to use the word “please” and “thank you”. You may have problems with 2-year-olds because they have the rebel spirit inside them but a 3-year-old can be a child who likes to please its parents with politeness. Usually, they don’t fully understand what those words mean, but you can teach them later. It will become a habit to say these words, so the understanding of them will come later.

The question that we ask so we can remind them is usually “What do you say?”. It might be difficult at first but just remind them over and over and eventually, you will make it. The first thing that comes to your mind is, why can’t they understand what am I doing for them? I clean, cook, shop, etc. Well, the thing is they don’t feel empathy at a certain age. Most of them can’t appreciate the effort you are making for them. So in their eyes, it is a normal thing. It is usually at the age of 10. But we don’t have to wait until then to star teaching some ground rules.

By the way, when you go to the store, stop for a moment and pay attention to what are people saying. You don’t hear thank you or please. They only say “I want that” or “give me that.” We can’t influence other people especially if they are grown-ups, but we can teach our children how to behave. And that is a good start.

Where is the best place to start this practice?

The perfect place and time are at family dinner. There you can teach them manners; you can always correct them or reinforce manners in your children, and of course, you can build a frame for empathy. We do that by giving them a task to help clean up the table or to cook with us or something else. Since you child can see what he/she has, you could easily show them what the word thank you means. They know they have this food and they should always thank you for it because you provided it. In time the child will understand why the word thanks to you and what it means. They will slowly learn who produced that food, who brought it to the market, how mommy cooked it, how daddy served it etc.
Make sure the child or children are listening because all your effort will be in vein if that information is not absorbed well enough.

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How to raise a well-rounded child.

First of all, it is very important to have a well and firm support system at home so that your child can have a normal and satisfied life that is full of achievements and fulfilled ambitions. The first goal for you as a parent is to help and protect but also to help your child to feel confident and useful. In this way, the child will develop a feeling for purpose, sense, and protection. We need to start educating our children before they go to school and by education, we mean the introduction and first steps to socialization. If you want to help your child and enhance it’s learning abilities and help for future studying such as academic performance, you will need to be consistent, dedicated, patient. Your primary task is to develop a child who is balanced and happy but most importantly happy with his/her results.

You need to encourage special skills and abilities.

Every child is unique and has a different set of skills and talents. These things can be seen in the classroom in the school, but there are a lot of children who show themselves in their best light usually after school. Their teachers don’t see much of them, or they aren’t spotted by their teachers just because they didn’t show their special skill in school. So it is very important to have activities with your child such as a music class where you are involved or some martial arts lesson to free and open their minds. Of course, your money doesn’t need to be spent for those activities.
Unstructured play is very important and doesn’t underestimate it. For example, playing football or catch in your backyard, or dancing in your bedroom or living room, or any other type of playing can provide opportunities for spiritual, physical, emotional, personal and intellectual development. It is also recommended to find a hobby for you. It is recommended to allow your child to see you in other activities and in that way it will or might inspire him/her to do something like you.

Always praise efforts and applaud.

When we talk about parenting, it is suggested that praising your children or child for his/her work is much better than to tell him/her that he/she is smart, talented or a genius. Most of the people with fixed mind-set do not accept or accept challenges with less interest because they believe they are natural or born geniuses or natural talents. Those who have growth mind-set are usually much more willing to accept the challenge and face them with hard work, and that is because they believe that they will learn new skills. We all know that grades do not motivate the best student to succeed. The success is won by his/her inner drive for learning.

Always respect different techniques and learning styles.

Most of us need silence to do our jobs effectively, but maybe our child needs music or any other sound to be productive. Children usually don’t need a noise-free room or environment. It is important to realize what is the best way and environment for a child to learn whether it is music in the background or something else.

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How to raise a responsible child?

One of the probably most asked questions in parenting. Don’t worry dear parents it’s nothing difficult. There are some basic rules on how to raise a good kid.

Teach them and show them the value of money

Adults know pretty well that money is time plus work. But unfortunately, children do not understand. At least not in the beginning. They think that money is just another funny paper which you can get at that big building called the bank or near that strange machine that gives that paper when you click on it. Yes, I am talking about ATM. You can tell your child that, for example, he/she can get only one doll. The next thing you hear is “Mommy can I have both dolls?”. So it is important to teach them that there is no such thing as a free meal or free money. The child feels secure in the family, and that is why you should give him a task to help you with something. For examples, chores are a very popular thing for kids. The child needs to know for example how to put the dishes in the sink or how to clean up the table or whatever chores needs to be done. To teach them the value of a dollar, his/her work needs to be related to money. But instead of money, they will do the job because it needs to be done and the work needs to be shared among the family members. Some experts say that it is a good thing to give them money because they will understand the connection between work and getting paid. It is up to you to choose what is ok with you and how does it fit with your family philosophy.

Teach them about the budget, household and costs

You could teach the older kids about the budget of the household and the costs. You would see their surprise when you explain to them what are the costs for something to buy or to maintenance. Children don’t know what we pay and what are the costs for some things. It is a good idea to start explaining and introducing the term costs, money, and value. The sooner they understand what these things are, the better it will be for them and their maturity to develop and to grow up according to their age. When they understand what the expenses are, they will be more responsible, and they will know what to do, and you won’t need to ask them to do anything. They will already know what needs to be done.

The good idea is to show them how the less fortunate people live

Usually, the child does not understand empathy when it is little, but it can feel sorry for someone and then appreciate the things it has much more. You could teach them how to be humane and to develop the feeling for someone and also to understand what it has and what other people don’t have. It will help your child to understand the real life and how things work in the adult world.

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How to make a good bond with your child?

Most of the parents ask themselves how to establish a better bond with their kids. The time to start bonding or to improve the bond is never too late. A good way to improve the bond between you and the children is the simplest one. Read to them. You could read bedtime stories or even something from school books if the child likes it. This kind of reading encourages language development and better performance in school. It also improves reading skills. This way, the child will understand the rhythm of the language, and it will be able to understand and build a listening vocabulary. Reading also helps and improves child’s emotions and balances them in the right way.

Eating together

It will bring you closer to your child and vice versa. Eating together is very important because it is an instinct that predates modern man. It is a “pack” instinct. This way the child will feel a “stronger” connection with you. It doesn’t matter if you know how to cook or you just make a quick meal, the feeling is there. For example, during dinner, you could always ask questions and show interest for your child. This way the child will be more stable as a person knowing that his/her mother and family cares for him/her. It is a good method to give you child a good example of how a family breakfast, lunch or dinner looks like and that this type of gathering is a normal thing for a family. Studies have shown that children who eat at least five meals a week with their parents are less likely to have or develop an eating disorder and will probably have better grades and success in school. It Is very important for a healthy family regarding family relations and normal behavior within the family.

Bedtime schedule is very important

Bedtime schedule is very important for the child’s development both physically and mentally. Studies suggest that TV should be turned off at least 30 minutes before bedtime. Same thing goes for the mobile phone. You can watch TV with your child before bedtime, and you should turn it off at least 30 minutes before his/her nap. The same thing is with a cell phone or a tablet. Spend quality time with your child but always make a bedtime schedule because this type of organization is good for their health, and what is a better way to bond with your child than to read a bedtime story, or to watch your favorite movie or a cartoon with your child. It doesn’t matter as long as you are spending those precious moments with your child.
Remember to always give your child a hug, not only before bedtime but also through the rest of the day when he/she returns from school. It is important to show emotions and to show that you care for your child and that it can see that you care. It is a nice path to becoming the best parent for your child.

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7 Things Moms Should Do for Their Kids Every Day

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There are certain things that a mother should do to their kids every day. This can be various things that all have the same goal, to make your kid happy and raise them properly. For those mothers that don’t know what are they supposed to do every day with their kids, we have created a list of 7 things that every mother should try and do every day.

We know that as a mother you are most likely have a job and a million different things planned for a day to do. However, no matter how busy your day is you should always have a few moments for your children. You cannot just ignore them or don’t pay attention to them one day because you don’t have time, they must be your priority. Kids naturally have the need for attention, even if it is for a short time, especially with their mother. That’s why we suggest to each of you mothers out there that are reading this to try and do some of these 7 things for your kid each day. If you cannot do all 7 of them it’s not a problem, but you have to try your best and save some time for your kids.

1.Show Physical Affection

Every kid needs some physical contact with their mother, so hug them, kiss them and tuck them into their bad each day. If you have some extra time you should lay down and cuddle with them for a while.

2. Be Always Present

This can be tricky sometimes, but you must pay attention to your kid if he clearly wants some. Put down your phone or pause the cleaning for a moment, that will mean them a lot.

3.Be Kind

We are sure that every mother loves their children. However, to show them that you love them, you must be kind to them. If you want to be the perfect mother, them being kind is a great first step you should take.

4.Laugh with your Kids

If you want to achieve a strong bond and friendly relationship with your kids, then you should laugh at their jokes or at the things they think is funny. However, there is a special method for this that every mother should practice and that is tickling.

5.Discipline them

A lot of mothers do this wrong, and they don’t realize after why isn’t it working. The mistake they are making is that they are trying to discipline their kids screaming. A much more effective way of disciplining them is if you are kind and loving.

6.Use Loving Words

Every kid is paying a lot of attention to what are their mothers saying to them, so you must be careful. The best way is to express your love to them and compliment them.

7. Start Praying with Them

Teach your kids how to pray and pray together, it will create some really special bond between you and your children.

 

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Teaching Your Kids About Sex Do’s and Don’ts

Everyone has gone through this conversation with their parents, even you. It is just a topic that parents feel the need of talking about with their kids. That is because they are trying to protect them by educating them about sex. Usually, these conversations go one way, the parents sit down with their children and talk about things they should know about sex and most of the time they are telling them all the things they shouldn’t do. That can be a problem, kids will get confused and when the time comes they won’t know what to do because their parents told them only things they shouldn’t do. To mothers that don’t know what to talk about on this topic, here are some smart ideas about what you should and shouldn’t do.

Do’s

Make yourself available. You have to be available for your kids to talk about something like this and we are not talking about just having time for them, but having a close relationship with them. That is important because otherwise, they will not share anything with you, they have to have complete trust in you. Make them feel relaxed completely before you even bring up this topic that way you will get the best results. If you don’t have this kind of relationship with them, start building it first and when you got to a point when they trust you enough you can talk about sex.

Plan Ahead. You cannot go into this conversation if you don’t have prepared anything. It will just end quickly and awkward for both of you. Planning is always important no matter what you want to do, especially when you want to talk about sex with your kid. Don’t just plan the things you will say to him about sex, plan where and when will you bring up this conversation. Some of the best places and times to start this conversation is in a car for example when you are taking him home from school. That way you will avoid several things such as eye contact that is usually the thing that ends these kinds of conversations quickly, and your kid won’t be distracted at school thinking about the things you just said to him about sex.

Don’ts

Don’t wait until they are teenagers to talk about it. Some mothers think that they should wait until their kid is for example at least 15 years old to talk about sex. That is totally wrong, you don’t have to wait such a long time for this conversation to happen. You can have a conversation about sex when they are 10.  Then they will understand it, you don’t have to have a very detailed conversation about sex at that age, but it is nice to know that your kid is educated somewhat about safe sex. Kids these days have sex even before they reach 15. You are risking their health by not educating them about safe sex. They might not know anything about sex and that is should be taken very seriously.